Written by Mark Kastleman on March 31, 2009 in Blog - 6 Comments

Several years ago I saw a comic strip showing a man standing next to a microwave oven. He puts some left-overs in the microwave and sets the timer for 60 seconds. With his arms folded and a frustrated expression on his face, he taps his foot impatiently on the floor. Suddenly when the timer is down to 30 seconds, he screams out, “Will you hurry up? I haven’t got all second!”

We live in a society of “instant gratification.” We dine on fast food, we drive fast cars, we pursue careers on the “fast track,” we constantly upgrade to faster computers, and we expect everything at the push of a button. Now don’t get me wrong, modern technology is a wonderful thing and has brought many marvelous benefits. But, it also has made us a society that has come to want things “right now!” Our current economic disaster was fueled by this “Get it now and pay later” attitude on the part of many consumers, businesses, Wall Street, and politicians. In essence, instant financial gratification has made America weak.

But however disturbing this trend has been, it pales in comparison to the instant sexual gratification message that Internet porn promotes. It says, “You can have it all now! Why put forth all of the time, effort and self-sacrifice to nurture a committed relationship? Why hold back and exercise control when you can experience all the pleasure and passion of simulated sex right now? If it feels good, then just do it–and do it now!” Internet Porn is the ultimate purveyor of instant gratification.

Pornographers blanket our society with their fatal message, trumpeting an attitude of me-me-mine-mine-now-now. When an individual develops a habit of accessing Internet porn the instant he feels the sexual or emotional urge, he begins to lose his inner strength–the ability to exercise patience, self-control and self-discipline. These would-be strengths the real marks of a true man, become weakness. And the loss of these strengths is not limited to time spent in front of the computer screen. When an individual develops the habit of self-centered instant gratification, he comes to expect the same instantaneous but unrealistic responses in other areas of his life, relationships and career. Immersed in Internet Porn, the strong man becomes a weakling.

The good news is that the individual caught in the porn trap is not a loser or a lost cause. His weakness can be turned back into the strength that it truly is. Through the Candeo online recovery training program, self control, self-discipline and inner strength can be restored.