Shame and Sex Addiction: The Real Story

For most of us, sexual curiosity begins at a very early age. By the time we reach middle school, our understanding of this natural part of life is usually shaped by the things we’ve encountered already. And while parents and teachers try hard to help us develop a healthy sexual appetite, some of us still go astray because, let’s face it, sex is amazing.

On top of that, properly executed sexual activities can actually boost your wellbeing. Whether engaged in the normal act of lovemaking or having fun with masturbation, there are countless benefits to reaching orgasm often. In fact, modern-day science has discovered at least 10 things that become instantly improved in your body upon reaching climax.

Alternatively, achieving frequent orgasms through excessive sex and/or masturbation can have its downfalls as well. Commonly known as “sex addiction,” behaviors which put your sexual health at risk are generally frowned upon. But what is sex addiction, and why do so many people feel ashamed about having it even though sex is natural and healthy thing?

What Is Sex Addiction?

Sex addiction is real, but it’s usually not life-threatening and it certainly isn’t something to be ashamed about. Moreover, addictions to sex and/or masturbation don’t have to control your life or reduce the quality thereof. It might make you feel better to know that more than 9 million people in America alone are said to have some sort of compulsive sexual behavior or addiction, which begs the question of whether sex addiction is a legitimate social concern or simply a matter of society’s inability to accept our own human nature for what it is.

Either way, the experts at the Society for the Advancement of Sexual Health say that hypersexual behavior can have the same damaging effects on a person as drugs and/or alcohol, citing it as an epidemic and urging avid masturbators to seek professional help as soon as possible. Viewed as having a general lack of integrity, sex addicts are often shamed by others despite the fact that the so-called “disease” is experienced by people of all ages, sexes and genders.

Who Are the Most Common Sex Addicts?

The root of the word “shame” comes from a Latin term meaning “to cover up.” For that reason, people who suspect they have or have been accused of having an addiction to sex and/or masturbation aren’t usually open to discussing it. Not only does that make it difficult to offer help, but it also skews the statistics and makes it impossible to determine an average demographic.

On the other hand, the most common “victims” of great sex are typically males between the age of 40 and 50 years old, according to recent studies. However, there seems to be a growing population of women and young people joining that category as well. So, where it used to be only middle-aged dudes shamefully masturbating and/or seeking treatment for sex addiction, soccer moms, grandpas and college kids are getting in on the action these days.

And while there is no average sex addict for us to attack or shame anymore, mainstream media and modern-day society have done an excellent job of pushing the truly struggling perverts deeper into their hedonistic holes by making sex and masturbation seem taboo. Therefore, the question is not who the average sex addiction is, it’s who it could be.

The Bottom Line

Human sexuality is a tale as old as time, with people trying everything imaginable to achieve a decent orgasm with or without a willing partner. Ancient artifacts have recently been unearthed, revealing the fact that mankind has had an “addiction to sex” since prehistoric times. Perhaps it’s our perception that’s creating the problem, or maybe it’s because pornography and sex toys or more readily available than ever before.

No matter how you split it, though, sex and/or masturbation are both healthy and natural ways to experience physical, emotional and even mental stimulation whether by yourself or with a partner. However, excessive sensory expeditions (AKA: hypersexual behavior) can do more than cause a social stigma – it can actually decrease your overall health and make it difficult for you and/or your partner to reach orgasm normally. In other words: Please enjoy sex responsibly because it’s hard to close Pandora’s box once it’s open.

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