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This is the Official Podcast from Candeo. The Answer For Your Porn Addiction. Episode 17. April 7, 2009. With Mark Kastleman. This weeks episode is titled, “How NOT to Pass Your Porn Addiction on to Your Children.”
Several years ago I saw a comic strip showing a man standing next to a microwave oven. He puts some left-overs in the microwave and sets the timer for 60 seconds. With his arms folded and a frustrated expression on his face, he taps his foot impatiently on the floor. Suddenly when the timer is down to 30 seconds, he screams out, “Will you hurry up? I haven’t got all second!”
We live in a society of “instant gratification.” We dine on fast food, we drive fast cars, we pursue careers on the “fast track,” we constantly upgrade to faster computers, and we expect everything at the push of a button. Now don’t get me wrong, modern technology is a wonderful thing and has brought many marvelous benefits. But, it also has made us a society that has come to want things “right now!” Our current economic disaster was fueled by this “Get it now and pay later” attitude on the part of many consumers, businesses, Wall Street, and politicians. In essence, instant financial gratification has made America weak.
But however disturbing this trend has been, it pales in comparison to the instant sexual gratification message that Internet porn promotes. It says, “You can have it all now! Why put forth all of the time, effort and self-sacrifice to nurture a committed relationship? Why hold back and exercise control when you can experience all the pleasure and passion of simulated sex right now? If it feels good, then just do it–and do it now!” Internet Porn is the ultimate purveyor of instant gratification.
Pornographers blanket our society with their fatal message, trumpeting an attitude of me-me-mine-mine-now-now. When an individual develops a habit of accessing Internet porn the instant he feels the sexual or emotional urge, he begins to lose his inner strength–the ability to exercise patience, self-control and self-discipline. These would-be strengths the real marks of a true man, become weakness. And the loss of these strengths is not limited to time spent in front of the computer screen. When an individual develops the habit of self-centered instant gratification, he comes to expect the same instantaneous but unrealistic responses in other areas of his life, relationships and career. Immersed in Internet Porn, the strong man becomes a weakling.
The good news is that the individual caught in the porn trap is not a loser or a lost cause. His weakness can be turned back into the strength that it truly is. Through the Candeo online recovery training program, self control, self-discipline and inner strength can be restored.
Candeo Student’s Name Withheld
My background was unique and the source of my sexual addiction, or so I thought. As I have progressed in my recovery and faced the struggles of addiction head on the realization of how much in common I actually have with others continues to surface. For years I thought something was fundamentally wrong with me and after 18 years of marriage and numerous failed attempts to just stop using pornography I began to believe my wife’s frustrations when she would say, “Maybe you really don’t want to give it up. Yet, deep down, I knew my heart longed to be free from the destructive sexual habits of pornography, masturbation, fantasy and various other extremely harmful outlets.
In an act of desperation I came across the Candeo website.My wife had caught me via the history on my work computer, again. This was the final straw, the pain she was suffering, the insecurity she displayed, and the lack of trust toward me caused me to fall into the deepest depression of my life–so deep, I became suicidal.During a scheduled doctor’s visit I was given medication for my depression, but it made me extremely sick physically. Thus, I decided to visit a counselor which coincided with my discovery of the Candeo program. The counselor has been instrumental in helping me face the molestation I was traumatized by as a child, but it was Candeo that truly brought me freedom.
When I first began investigating the Candeo program, I did so via the free mini course email. There was just enough information to inspire me and wet my appetite to join the program. I was hesitant to spend the little bit of money they charge to run the program, but how funny it is how easily I would have spent 10 times the amount on my sexual desires. Thankfully, I was able to get enrolled in the program and began to work it each day. Everyday, I was encouraged and challenged, but not in the ways others had done so in my past; rather, the hope that I could actually be free and my brain could become retrained to not even want unhealthy sexual outlets began to spring forward.
The Candeo program didn’t just help me face my sexual addictions. I’ve come to discover in my life that the pornography was the outlet for deeper issues. After the first few weeks with Candeo I was feeling much better, but still sensed feelings of uneasiness in my own life with the recovery. Something inside of me still felt like I needed more. Well, Candeo provided the something more I was so desperate to find. The remainder of the program dealt with issues that have never been faced in my life.Moreover, it was by sticking with the program to the end that I was able to not only find the freedom to my sexual addictions that had proven so destructive over the 30 years they controlled my life, but I was also able to improve the overall quality of my life.
The Candeo program implements grace, hope and support to help equip each individual to achieve sexual freedom in their lives.
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This is the Official Podcast from Candeo. The Answer For Your Porn Addiction. Episode 13. March 2, 2009. With Mark Kastleman. This weeks episode is titled, “I’m Sick of Being in this Porn Rut!”
