Along with all of the remarkable porn addiction online recovery education, training, tools and technology, the Candeo program also includes a real human Coach. Candeo Students make amazing progress under the guidance of their Coach. The following is an excerpt from a Student’s private message board communication with his Candeo Coach. The Student gave Candeo permission to share this on our blog. Keep in mind that the personal identity of the Student is never divulged to the Candeo Coach and vice-versa. Both the Student and the Candeo Coach are known to each other by their screen name only. Also, only one Student and their personal Candeo Coach have access to their private message board.
From a Candeo Student:
“Oh, and also I just wanted to say THANK YOU SO MUCH CANDEO!!! You have been a great breath of fresh air for me when I was feeling hopeless, and have been an essential part in the freedom that God is winning for me in my life!!!!! You guys should be SO happy and feel SO blessed that you’re touching people’s lives with what I really feel like God has given you guys (and gals 
) for a scientific and spiritual strategy to help people with their recovery.
You should feel AMAZING for how much you’re selflessly helping peoples’ lives through what ya’ll are doing. KU-FREAKIN-DOS to you guys. And thank you also, Coach, for being so desiring to help and be patient with me and all of your “students”. It’s been a real happy thing for me, and I get really excited when I receive on my phone “Coach has sent you a message” cuz I know that I’m being taken care of by someone that really cares and wants to help. You have been, whether you know it or not, an essential part of this whole thing for me, cuz you’ve helped personalize it and I’ve read your emails when there’s no one around and I’ve felt like there’s other human beings out there who really care about this part (ex-part?) of my life.”
This is an excerpt from a Candeo Student’s communication with his Candeo Coach. Candeo Students often express how finally understanding how their addiction works makes a huge difference in their recovery. We have the Student’s permission to share this on our blog:
The story of my struggle against porn addiction is way long, full of grief, loss, pain, suffering, betrayal, anguish, resent, remorse, failure, sins, and the list goes on. Actually let me tell you the real reason I finally decided to look for a way to quit pornography. For the past six years I had been watching porn and masturbating secretly at night on my laptop. First few years, I actually liked it. But after a while I began avoiding it considering the fact that it was a sin. But the more I avoid it, the more I did it. I attempted to take my life once too, but somehow God saved me. After a while, there came a point when I said forget it, I can never overcome this addiction. I will just have to live with this for the rest of my life. Then something tragic happened just 4 months ago.
My aunt died, of lung cancer. She was a non-smoker and her age was 35. I was shocked!! She was my best friend, my guardian, my inspiration. She was a kind of a person who will put the needs of others before her. She actively participated in charity drives, raising funds for orphans, helping the poor by providing them with food, shelter, clothing etc. For such a benevolent person to leave this world with so much pain was awful. My world toppled upside down. I first desired to be a rich man with lots of wealth , cars, and of course women. But now, I just wanted to dedicate my life to helping others who are in need. But as long as I was watching porn and masturbating, I couldn’t see my self becoming a benevolent person like my aunt. So for the past 4 months, I had been extensively browsing the internet for fixing my addiction and I finally found Candeo. And with the blessing of God, and my aunt, I have been porn free for almost a month. I have been actively participating in performing good deeds, like giving charity, helping out disabled in the public, helping my mom, playing with my little cousins, and many more smaller things.
I’ve just started level 3 of the training today. And I have to agree things are beginning to make sense. All these years I had been fighting with myself to stop this addiction and often would be successful in controlling this addiction for few a days. It is what you call the “control phase” where I would just dig in and try with all my strength to control all my thoughts and where my eyes go and try to do everything as perfect as I can.
Then after several days the battle would wear me out and the control cycle would break and then I enter into the release cycle where I give in and look at porn because I’m tired of fighting. I would stay in the release cycle until I get so disgusted with myself that I vow never to look at porn again and then I head back to the control cycle. Back and forth, over and over for years and years.
by John Hodges, Candeo Student
Hi, my name is John Hodges and I started with Candeo back in the early fall of last year. I was at a point in my life that I knew had to be rock bottom. I had lost my marriage and fell through a roof and was out on workers’ comp. I was at home surfing the web when I found an article about Candeo. After losing my marriage due to a string of bad choices I had made, I had plunged myself into self medicating with pornography and masturbation. I knew, however, that at some point I was going to pass the point of safe return and be lost forever (because I chose to be). I didn’t want this. So, when I saw the article and came to the site, I felt that God and steered me to it. Now, I KNOW that He did.
I didn’t balk at the price, it was much higher then, because I knew I had to try something different. I had been looking at porn off and on for years . . . masturbating quite regularly since I was 9, and really never saw a way out. In fact, every time I heard the charge to “be perfect” from the scriptures, I would cringe and wonder why God was such a harsh disciplinarian. Again, it was time for a change. I had struggled by executing a bad strategy long enough, so I knew that this was time for me to call a time out, re-strategize, and to go back into the game with a new game plan.
Candeo was/is exactly that…a new game plan! It stresses change, accountability, and for me, most importantly, consistency…not perfection! It’s exactly what I needed, and still need, in order to live my life as peacefully as I do now. But I’ve learned that the techniques I learned through Candeo not only benefit me with sexual addiction, but also with my food addiction…in fact, I’m down by more than 40 lbs since starting, my relationships with my children, ex-wife, and even ex-in-laws are the best they’ve ever been. But most importantly, I have learned, through this process and the techniques, to love ME. I love myself so deeply now. Through this journey, I’ve gone through several phases trying to figure out who I am…something I was always afraid to do because of my fear of what others would think of me. I went through a clubbing phase, a rock star phase, a jewelry wearing phase, and even a gender bending phase (with nail polish and eyeliner, too…EVEN AT CHURCH!!!! LOL!!!) In the end, I’ve come to realize that I am me . . . and without all of the accessories, clothes, make-up, etc. . . . I love me, and God loves me with or without those things . . . so nothing else in the world matters. In fact, knowing this, everything else really just falls into place. I love me best with all of the exterior and surface stuff stripped away . . . everything . . . just me being me.
I’ve learned to connect with deity in a way that I never thought possible. And I don’t see my God as a tyrant that I fear reporting to, or who is constantly looking over my shoulder. No, I know that’s not who He is. He is a God who loves me, who keeps all of his promises, who, through His Son, has made it possible for me to be perfect in times of temptation through His tender mercy, love, and enabling grace.
To sum this all up . . . Candeo so rocks!
John
May you find peace – body, mind, and spirit.
