Archaeologists recently uncovered evidence that people have been masturbating – especially with rudimentary sex toys – since the ancient times. Oddly enough, those horny yet innovative individuals seem to have fashioned hundreds of dildos and pocket pussies out of stuff like chalk and old bread. Fast-forward a few thousand years and we now have some pretty amazing alternatives for masturbation, but the habit of enjoying it frequently is something that has never gone out of style.
What Is Masturbation?
In general, masturbation is classified as any natural or unnatural behavior used to generate sexual pleasure to oneself or another. Usually, masturbation is something that people do with their alone time. However, mutual masturbation, ejaculation restriction and some types of BDSM are also considered forms of masturbation, simply because they produce sexual pleasure without conforming to the perimeters of natural sex.
Who Masturbates the Most?
Interestingly, masturbation is an extremely common behavior among every species on the planet. As for human beings, masturbation has been observed in people as young as a few years old. The elderly folks enjoy it, the middle-aged do it, and the youth can’t get enough. However, the most avid masturbators among us are men between the ages of 30 and 50 years old, including otherwise sexually desirable guys who could get real sex quite easily.
How Is Masturbation Hurtful?
Engaging in masturbation is not a harmful practice in and of itself. In fact, it’s all about how you do it and how often you need it to reach orgasm. Because masturbation leaves out personal interaction with a partner while narrowly focusing the person’s attention on one singular event – ejaculation – it has an enormous potential for addiction can even desensitize the genitals over time.
Furthermore, because masturbation is self-directed and thus produces customized orgasms – the likes of which are among the most intense physiological experiences a human being can have – it’s important to remain extremely selective about what you and/or your partner must do to reach climax this way. Remember, whatever you do to reach orgasm will be reinforced in your brain’s pleasure centers and may determine the future of your sex life.
How Is Masturbation Helpful?
Fortunately, things are not all bad when it comes to masturbating often. This is especially true for people who have problems with premature ejaculation, as frequent masturbation can increase sexual endurance and enhance the performer’s self-esteem as a result. Furthermore, healthy amounts of masturbation allow you to reap the benefits of orgasm while also helping you customize the perimeters of your relationships.
According to studies performed by the same people who warn us about sex addiction, frequent amounts of “normal” masturbation (especially the mutual kind) can actually boost fertility, promote better sleep patterns, aid in digestion, enhance interpersonal bonds, relieve stress and eliminate things like anxiety, migraines and upset stomach. Apparently, completely dismissing the idea of masturbation can have tremendous consequences on your health. After all, it’s a completely natural part of life.
The Bottom Line
Overall, masturbation is something like a double-edged sword, with countless benefits and numerous drawbacks. In short, it all depends on how you approach it and how often you do it. The average person only needs to ejaculate about five times per month. So, if you’re doing it more often than that you might want to reconsider your habits, especially if it’s causing you and/or your partner(s) problems.
Being proactive about masturbation is the best way to enjoy all the benefits while avoiding all the drawbacks. To make it easy, here are some simple questions to ask yourself and/or your partner(s) to determine whether masturbation is being helpful or harmful in your life:
- Is it easy or difficult to walk away from the urge to masturbate?
- If easy, you’re safe to continue masturbating.
- If difficult, you may be experiencing the effects of sex addiction.
- How do you feel about yourself, your life and your partner after masturbating?
- If good, you’re safe to continue masturbating.
- If bad, you likely have an unhealthy sexual appetite or taboo compulsion.
- Does masturbation make you feel isolated or more connected to people?
- If connected, you’re safe to continue masturbating.
- If isolated, you probably have a problem or need to seek out couples-friendly sex toys.
- Do you regularly objectify yourself and/or others by focusing solely on the physical aspects of orgasm, as opposed to regularly experiencing the holistic side effects thereof?
- If no, you’re safe to continue masturbating.
- If yes, you may want to reconsider your sexual behaviors and seek professional help.
- Has masturbation ever caused problems and/or disconnections in a relationship?
- If no, you’re safe to continue masturbating.
- If yes, you should look for interactive and/or compatible couple’s sex toys to enjoy the best of both worlds.