Your brain doesn’t want to give up your existing habits—especially sexual behaviors. Your brain throws up barriers to keep these behaviors in place.
6 Replies to Podcast 35 –What Keeps You From Giving Up Your Unwanted Sexual Behaviors?
Edin
July 27, 2010 • 2:01 am
I always wanted an answer to this question. Why do people don’t change when they honestly want to change? Your answer makes perfect sense. Thanks, Mark.
What if you feel as if your “drug of choice” is a part of your identity, and giving it up would make you feel a strange sense of “identity crisis” just because you are so used to the high level repetition of your own habits and that your mind constantly tells you that you won’t be yourself if you give it up. With that kind of fear, how can you ever be free?
Listening to the answers of why and how the brain functions, how it is triggered, the chemicals that are released and the tactics the brain uses to hold on to habits and addictions was amazing. I believe this knowledge will be the beginning of freedom for people who have this addiction, but have carried so much deep shame and guilt, they have just needed the truth to set them free.
Thank-you so very much for this siye, for this knowledge.
What if I don’t see anything wrong with what I’m doing…still making excuses…..but my girlfriend and others around me tell me it’s a problem. That they don’t feel connected to me…that I seem distracted when with them, that I’m spending too much time alone, that I don’t seem to respect and appreciate the women in my life…but show a greater respect for men.
Could you please explain how your program is the same and or different from The 12 Step Programs? I am especially interested in understanding how the “healing” tools you teach, in order to re-wire and change/heal the brain, incorporate the tried and true principles of the twelve steps and their emphasis on a Higher Power and ones dependence on This Power to restore health? Does your program teach the princples and life long habits of making amends, prayer and meditation, humility vs. control etc? How does your program recognize the principle that in order to realize true and lasing healing a person must accept and acknowledge a continued reliance on a personal relationship with ones Higher Power (as they choose to define this) and make this relationship the Corner Stone of the Recovery Process?
Edin
July 27, 2010 • 2:01 am
I always wanted an answer to this question. Why do people don’t change when they honestly want to change? Your answer makes perfect sense. Thanks, Mark.
steve
August 3, 2010 • 6:02 pm
thank you for these resources. they are very useful in freeing one from this dead end of the road experience.
an amateur repenter needing help
August 4, 2010 • 10:38 pm
What if you feel as if your “drug of choice” is a part of your identity, and giving it up would make you feel a strange sense of “identity crisis” just because you are so used to the high level repetition of your own habits and that your mind constantly tells you that you won’t be yourself if you give it up. With that kind of fear, how can you ever be free?
Carrie-lynn
August 16, 2010 • 12:19 pm
Listening to the answers of why and how the brain functions, how it is triggered, the chemicals that are released and the tactics the brain uses to hold on to habits and addictions was amazing. I believe this knowledge will be the beginning of freedom for people who have this addiction, but have carried so much deep shame and guilt, they have just needed the truth to set them free.
Thank-you so very much for this siye, for this knowledge.
Justin Kinney
August 24, 2010 • 6:10 am
What if I don’t see anything wrong with what I’m doing…still making excuses…..but my girlfriend and others around me tell me it’s a problem. That they don’t feel connected to me…that I seem distracted when with them, that I’m spending too much time alone, that I don’t seem to respect and appreciate the women in my life…but show a greater respect for men.
Mae
August 29, 2010 • 8:12 am
Could you please explain how your program is the same and or different from The 12 Step Programs? I am especially interested in understanding how the “healing” tools you teach, in order to re-wire and change/heal the brain, incorporate the tried and true principles of the twelve steps and their emphasis on a Higher Power and ones dependence on This Power to restore health? Does your program teach the princples and life long habits of making amends, prayer and meditation, humility vs. control etc? How does your program recognize the principle that in order to realize true and lasing healing a person must accept and acknowledge a continued reliance on a personal relationship with ones Higher Power (as they choose to define this) and make this relationship the Corner Stone of the Recovery Process?